Dialling down the favouritism
March 25, 2011 3:58 AM Subscribe
Asking this for a friend. She is a student, and one of her teachers is showing her a bit of favouritism and she wants to know how to get him to dial it down a notch so that she doesn't alienate her classmates and develop a false sense of her own abilities.
posted by scuza to Human Relations (11 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My friend is a student in design. One of her teachers has been treating her more nicely than her classmates, and it's quite a small class (less than ten). She's also good friends with her classmates.
She thinks he just sees her as a kindred spirit in terms of design sensibilities. He will say stuff like she is a bright light in the class (in front of other students) has called her work "flawless" (which she thinks is impossible), and will generally spend more time talking to her than the others. She's concerned that she's not getting accurate critical feedback on her work. She feels that in times when her work has not been up to scratch that he's been complimentary of it anyway. She's a bit self-deprecating in general and quite talented, however the things she quotes from him do seem a bit much at times.
What can she do to get him to dial it down in class? She's been trying interact less with him in class and doesn't want to have to confront him about it, as it'd be super weird. Is there anything else she can do?