visting with long distance family
March 23, 2011 11:01 AM Subscribe
Am I visiting with my long distance family enough?
posted by ljs30 to human relations (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
About 8 years ago I moved from the northeast to the west coast. I did it to pursue my career. And it has worked out for the better as I now do what I love to do for a living. The downside is that I don't get to see my parents, my sister, and my other relatives very often. I recently got married and so my wife and I have agreed to visit both our families equally. Her family lives about 8 hours from mine. So while it's doable to visit both at the same time, it might not always work out the way. My sister, who has a kid and another one on the way has been pressuring me and subtly suggesting that I need to come home more often. I know my mom and dad would also like to see me more, but they don't pressure me about it. My goal is to get home 2 times a year. But because of money, that can be hard. The price of plane tickets have gone up. And of course if both my wife and I go, that makes it a costly trip. The plane trip tickets can cost $600-$1000 total for both of us. If we go 2 times a year it runs close to $2000. We also wanna be able to have the occasional vacation for ourselves as well. But family is important. Also, I usually go to my family rather then them coming to me, since there's more room for my wife and I and we don't have to pay for a hotel or anything like that. My questions are...is it terrible if sometimes I only make it back once a year? Is it bad if we sometimes take a vacation for ourselves instead of visiting the family? Usually I spend about a week when I visit. Any advice here is greatly appreciated!