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March 17, 2011 11:29 AM Subscribe
How do you do the jump from acquaintance to friends thing?
posted by peachfuzz to Human Relations (37 answers total) 92 users marked this as a favorite
I have no problem meeting people, striking up conversations with them, and getting along in a friendly way. I have a lot of interest and hobbies that afford chances to meet people with common interests. But I have no idea how to go from "people I hang out with and have a good time with within a specific setting" to "people I go have coffee with or invite to my house or otherwise see for their own sake."
The "let's go grab some coffee after this" thing that is always suggested seems so painfully awkward to me. Any suggestions for actually doing it? Additional awkward: a lot of the people I'd like to see more of are, like, employees of places I frequent. When I was a cocktail waitress, customers who misinterpreted polite friendliness as real friendliness were the WORST...though the people I'm thinking of seem to be genuinely interested. Should I just wait for those people to make the first move?
Ugh, I feel like an idiot asking this; it sounds so helpless. I moved across the country a couple years ago, though, and it turns out that I have no idea how to do this as an adult. I've met a ton of people, but I'm in acquaintance purgatory with all of them.
So how do YOU transition from acquaintance to friend?
*Please don't tell me that it will "just happen if they're into you, too". It hasn't, so either I'm actually a freak people are just putting up with, or I smell bad, or something.