Mom, if you're reading this? Please go away!
March 16, 2011 7:01 PM Subscribe
My mother stalks me online and it bothers me. How do I get her to stop. Or, an easier question: How do I stop letting it bug me so much?
posted by anonymous to human relations (40 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My mother somehow found my twitter account and now whenever I tweet about something, she calls or texts me within minutes to 'coincidentally' talk about it. Example: when I posted something after my annual review at work, three minutes later, there was a text from her saying "Hi honey, did you have your review yet?" It happens all the time and it's making me a little crazy.
My twitter account is public and I haven't tried to hide it or anything, but no one else I know has managed to find it--or at least not as far as I can tell. And honestly, it would bother me less if she just wasn't so obvious about it. I'm not posting anything on it that I care about her reading but it makes me feel like she's standing over me in the lunch room at high school or something. I just don't want to feel so guarded every time I post something online.
It's not limited to twitter. She's ferreted out pretty much every other place I've left a mark online, even things under different email addresses/pseudonyms. Sometimes when I visit her, she's left the browser in her room opened to some random page/profile of mine and I've noticed things in her browser history when using her computer. Once in high school, she somehow found a blog I thought was secret and ended up freaking out on me because I used a swear word and said something not nice about her (nothing terrible or nasty, just a complaint about her grounding me for no reason (which I still stand by, damn it)). That was about 8 years ago and since then she's never mentioned anything about her internet sleuthing finds, and I haven't said anything because I just don't know what to say or if there's even a point. It didn't matter to me that much before the offline twitter "replies" started happening all the time.
We have a pretty good relationship, but she's super sensitive and my knee-jerk snarky responses to this would probably just make her cry. I realize at some level that she likely just wants to be more involved in my life, but I already talk to her every couple days and tell her what's going on way more than a lame one-liner on twitter. In fact, I talk to her more than anyone except my husband and best friend. So why is she one who has to religiously follow every move I make online?
Should I say something? Just ignore it? Start tweeting about my salacious sex life? Make my account(s) private? Give up the internet for good? Help!
(This question is anonymous because she stalks me on here too!)