What can I expect when shopping for a bridesmaid dress?
March 12, 2011 7:45 AM Subscribe
I will be shopping for a bridesmaid dress in the very near future. I want to try dresses on in person before I buy. I'll likely be shopping alone, and although I have a general idea of what styles and colors to look for, I'll have to make the final decision myself. I've never been in a bridal shop and am concerned about pushy salespeople and upsells. What do I need to know, and how can I make this as hassle-free as possible?
There is one dress I've found that I really like, but I want to see how it looks on me, and I'm open to other styles. The bride hasn't narrowed things down to one designer, style, or color, so my job is to figure that out. The wedding is in another state and I'll be shopping by myself.
This will be my first time setting foot in a bridal shop and I have no idea what to expect. Can I just walk in or do I have to make an appointment? Is everything I've heard about obnoxious bridal salespeople accurate? Will there be pressure on me to make a purchase? Will they find it weird if I look at too many different styles and colors, or if the bride's not there?
I've already called one place, and the person I talked to said I needed an appointment, and they might not have time for the order (the wedding is in a couple months), and how many bridesmaids would there be and where the wedding is and so on. I know they're running on a schedule, but that's already too much hassle for my taste. Really, I just want to try on dresses.
Complicating factor: I am the bride. I'd rather get a simple $150 bridesmaid dress than a gigantor $1000 gown. I've heard that if you let slip that you're the bride, the salespeople will all but refuse to sell you a maid's dress. I have a good cover story, but I'm nervous that if I go in asking to see a number of different dresses and say "oh, also, could you bring this out in white?" they'll find me out. Am I worrying about nothing, or do I need to steel myself?
(And does it really take three months to get a fucking bridesmaid dress made? Am I screwed here?)