I met a great guy! He's in the process of getting a divorce. Should I bow out now before getting hurt?
March 6, 2011 10:26 AM Subscribe
I met a great guy, but he's in the middle of a divorce. Should I bow out?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (20 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I met a guy through an online dating site about a month ago. He was very honest with me that he is in the process of getting a divorce (started in December), but felt as if he was ready to start dating. His relationship status did give me pause, but I thought there'd be no harm in meeting him.
We met and clicked pretty easily. Since then we've had several great dates and great sex...but I'm beginning to feel that he's just not emotionally ready for a relationship, and I am starting to think I should back away now before I get hurt. He's in a huge transitional phase of trying to sell his house, move to a new apartment, custody issues with the kids, etc. I like him a lot, but don't want to be the transitional woman who helps him get through a rough time. I'm the first woman he has been with since his marriage (which lasted 15 years), and although the divorce is amicable, I would think he needs some time to mourn the loss.
I'm thinking of telling him that I don't feel the timing is right, that I like him a lot, but don't want to be the rebound woman. I'm looking for a serious relationship, and maybe once the divorce is settled, he's in a better place, we can try again if we are both still available and interested.
Has anyone been in this situation and taken the risk for the relationship or walked away? How did it turn out? Help!