How do I get that holiday feeling?
March 1, 2011 6:05 PM Subscribe
How do I make my (stay-at-home) holiday feel like a real break?
posted by lollusc to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation (9 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I finished up a very stressful job last Thursday. I am starting my new, very exciting job on 1 April. I timed it like this so I could take four weeks of vacation - the first no-work break I will have had since 2004. I originally imagined this break as time spent lying in bed all day, lounging around in my pajamas, drinking endless amounts of coffee, reading trashy library books, and going for long walks in the park.
I'm nearly a week in and I just can't get that relaxing feeling. The problems are thus:
- I have this constant feeling in the back of my mind like I should be working. Sort of a restless poke-poke feeling that makes it difficult to sit down and relax. I feel guilty for not working!
- I do actually have stupid work-like obligations during this "break". In the four weekdays off I have had so far, I have had to attend two meetings relating to a conference I am helping run in a few months, have had to write up the minutes for one of these meetings, have had to go into university to submit some paperwork for a research study I am involved in, had to clear out my old office and set up my new one, and now it turns out there is a job I need to apply for with a deadline of 21 March. There are more meetings I will have to attend in the next couple of weeks. I also volunteer a couple of times a week at things that feel quite work-like. I haven't had a chance to sleep in late yet and I've been going into university on average twice a day!
- I was originally planning to go visit friends and family during this period, but they are all in Christchurch, so that's uh, not going to be happening. One friend I would have visited is trying to persuade me to come anyway, as she works for civil defence, and they need extra hands to help out, but oh god, I don't think I could bear it. It's hard enough seeing it all from this distance. But I'm feeling guilty for not helping, so that feeds back into the above issues.
My questions are:
- are my expectations for an obligation-free break just selfish and totally unrealistic? Should I just be working on adjusting to the way things are?
- are there actual things I can do to get rid of the above problems (the guilty feeling, the restlessness, the actual obligations)?
- otherwise, how can I fix my attitude so that the rest of the time FEELS like a real holiday, even if I'm not going away, and even though it's getting interrupted by so much stuff?
- any other practical suggestions you have for a stay-at-home holiday: fun things to do, how to organise your day, etc.