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February 25, 2011 9:14 AM Subscribe
How do I act more controlling in bed?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
It seems to be a trend that the women I'm attracted to (or at least end up sleeping with) "like it rough" or want me to be controlling in a more general way. As in giving orders, light hair pulling, arm pinning, etc. The trouble is, I'm perhaps overly sensitive to actually hurting someone or forcing them to do something they don't want to do. As in, I'm unwilling to risk either. It's not that I'm averse to the idea of power play being a possible part of a healthy relationship or that the idea doesn't turn me on.
I have a fair bit of experience with light bondage, but how do I get comfortable with freeform domination? I don't think anyone concerned is looking for gimp masks and whips, just exercising a degree of physical and mental control that I'm unused to wielding on someone for who I care a great deal.
So, any advice?
P.S. Sorry this is anonymous, but, you know, TMI for some of my real world associates who are on here.