Pictures of a deceased ex
February 24, 2011 7:25 AM Subscribe
A little over two years ago, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. A couple of weeks later, he passed away unexpectedly. The whole situation, the break-up and his death, was incredibly difficult for me. For almost the past two years, I have been in a relationship with someone else; this relationship has gotten really serious over the past year and a half or so. We were friends when my ex-boyfriend and I split, so he has been with me through this whole situation and knows how hard it has been for me. Generally, over the past couple of years, he has been very supportive and understanding of what I am going through. Since my ex passed away, I have had pictures of him and me together in my apartment and as my facebook profile picture.
posted by CuriousJoe to Human Relations (73 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I have those pictures up because he was a very important person in my life and I want to honor his memory. In the past couple of weeks, my boyfriend has been telling me that these pictures (particularly the profile picture) are starting to make him feel uncomfortable. He doesn’t mind at all that I have pictures, he just thinks that since he and I have been together for 2 years now, it’s starting to be inappropriate that my profile picture is still of me and my ex. He keeps asking me how I would feel if he still had up pictures of him and his ex after 2 years of being with me, but I think that is not a fair comparison because this is a unique situation. Is he overreacting and being insensitive? Is it appropriate to still have up pictures of me and my ex together? Is there some sort of reasonable compromise here?