Fired at work and I now need to get back on track
February 19, 2011 11:41 AM Subscribe
How to get my life back and remove the stigma after wrongful dismissal?
posted by penguinkeys to Work & Money (22 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I was fired from my work a month ago. A large company that has been on the decline for decades. I have been there for a year and a half as a manager. The entire situation was flubbed from the beginning by a new cavalier manager intent on making an example of me and an inept HR rep. Many rights were violated and many strict internal company policies were not followed. The boss is a bully (To put it gently) and has driven out countless people already. My old boss loved me as does all the employees at the business. I have countless good references. They are all disgusted by what has happened. The regional HR didn't even know about this. Such is life I guess.
As you can imagine I immediately consulted with several lawyers. They are all now chomping at the bit, one even willing to take my case in a you don't pay unless you win situation. Which this particular higher profile office rarely ever does if my friends and relatives thoughts are to be trusted. I'm not stupid, I have a massive paper trail and have had one going ever since I sensed trouble months ago. I'm covered.
Needless to say I was furious but I now forgive them. What was done to me was out of malice and hate but it wasn't about my job performance or my worth as a person. They have some major personal issues and I wouldn't trade their lives for mine for one second. That doesn't mean that I will not hold them accountable for their actions. I loved working with the people there and that has been taken away from me. I have been humiliated and dragged through the mud and there are limits on how you can treat people in the real world.
My issue comes in how to explain all this to get my life back on track. I've already felt the sting in a few ways:
1. I've been denied a job that I likely would have gotten had I not been fired from this one (Despite the glowing references). I'm now hesitant in how to approach future job applications with the fact that I was fired and in the middle of a rather large lawsuit. I consider myself great at interviews, and have been told in interviews that I'm really charming and if I'd consider a more people oriented role. But, I'm at a loss as to how to spin this.
2. I am in the middle of a battle to get unemployment insurance because I was fired. I can't say if I'll get it or not.
3. It's tough getting dates when you don't have a job. I have money, it's just not desirable. I'm now taking girls out with my good friends on fun activities to show them that I'm still a smart, funny, good person, but I fell into unfortunate circumstances. It's still a tough sell I've found...
4. I have no experience in the service industry. I'm not one to sit around so I applied to jobs that would keep me busy and wouldn't require a lot of explanation about my current situation but that was not demeaning (McDonalds). Apparently so did 30,000 other university girls with experience in waitressing, bartending, etc... I have trades experience but nobody is hiring at the moment. Not even any retail jobs in the mall (At least not for men).
I am trying to network as best I can and will likely occupy my time at the gym, playing music, cooking, possibly volunteering, etc... but there is a stigma attached to being fired, no matter the reason. It's now a struggle to convince people that I am capable of doing good work, that I can be a good boyfriend, that I was fired for reasons not related to performance. I'm usually optimistic but it's really been getting to me.
I'm sure many people have been through this so any ways that you've found to get your life back together would help. I'm in my mid twenties so I know that this is likely only a bump in the road.