Groping stepdad vs. little kid
February 11, 2011 11:14 AM Subscribe
How do I resolve this awkward family situation involving a groping stepdad? More info after the break.
posted by anonymous to human relations (52 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My stepdad has been with my mum for more than 10 years now. He is well liked in the family and usually everybody gets along just fine. There is one thing though, he likes being close to girls and young women (age 2 to 30) just a little bit too much, which has earned him some kind of reputation. He often provokes situations that make it easy for him to grope or otherwise apply a "bad touch" (usually in a joking manner). A few years ago this became too much for some family members and friends to bear and we raised the issue with my mum. She claimed not to see anything wrong and defended him. In any case, the groping has all but stopped since then.
My daughter is 18 months old now and it is becoming increasingly difficult to avoid situations of her being alone with him. There aren't many people who can babysit for us on a regular basis and my mum would love to do it, but I just can't bring myself to let them take care of my little girl if there is any chance of him being alone with her for even just a few minutes.
I'm usually very open and direct towards others and I don't have a problem talking about sensitive issues, but if I confront him directly, it basically means accusing him of child molestation, which is a little tough even for me. And what's more, it's not even going to change anything. Whatever his response is, the situation will stay the same. Of course I will still not be able to trust him with my kid.
I'm thinking about asking a family counselor for advice but I'm sure some of you have something to say as well. Throwaway email is totally.random.user at t3h gmails. Thanks!