How do I contact somene I don't know and not come off like a weirdo?
February 9, 2011 1:17 PM Subscribe
I recently went to a film screening and Q&A. I didn't go to the mic to ask one of the panelists my question. How would I ask it now?
posted by droplet to human relations (15 answers total)
There was only time for a few questions, and those were for the film's director and one of the actors. Once the event was over, no one got a chance to come near them, as they were whisked away into a car and gone in minutes (the director is a well-known B-list TV and film actor).
Why didn't I leap forward to the mic at the get-go? Most of the people at the screening were very young film students, while I am well out of school. I thought I could find out how to contact the man later. Also, I wasn't looking for a sound-bite answer, since what I want to know is how he was able to switch gears from being a performing musician to being a writer/producer. He's not a kid and neither am I, so I could use some advice from someone who's made the mid-career leap.
I Googled his name and found his contact email via his website. He's also got a Facebook page. Then I thought, I've never contacted anyone cold before. I don't know anyone who knows him to smooth the way. Would approaching via email make me a creeper? What would I say?
So there it is: It's OK to send such a person a note with a question, yes? And what could I say in any note that would mitigate creepiness?