Am I justified in bringing this is issue to HR, or is it something I need to just suck up and deal with?
I received an e-mail yesterday that is really messing with my emotions and my work environment.
The e-mail was from a manager; not mine specifically, but one at the same level as mine, with whom I have moderate interaction. The underlying discussion isn't important. What is important is the tone of the e-mail and the attitude it portrays.
The whole issue started as a side discussion between myself and two coworkers (neither of who are on my team or in my direct area). One of those coworkers reported some of the discussions to his manager, who then sent the e-mail in question. As written, the manager was directing the response to the third member of our discussion, but in addition to us three, also copied on the e-mail were his own boss, my boss, and my boss's boss.
Again, the specifics are irrelevant, but this manager has a history of using slimy, dishonest or juvenile tactics to get what he wants, and this I more or less get... some people just are that way; that's their method of success. Mine is different, whatever, to each his own. But this e-mail took things a step further, IMO.
The e-mail contained the following key points:
- Grossly misleading statements which could be construed as true only if viewed completely out of context from the original discussion.
- Patently false statements and suggestions, many of which I can directly prove false with documentation (or, indirectly, the lack thereof).
- The suggestion that some members of my team and I made a mistake by choosing a particular job focus / path (internally, when we were given a choice during a moderate organizational restructuring a few years ago).
- The insinuation that his staff, though on the same 'level' as me and my team, are smarter, possess a better skill set, and/or are simply better than us.
I am thoroughly disgusted with this person and their tactics, and I personally take offense with the last two bullets in particular. But this probably happens a lot - no workplace is golden, I think a large percentage of people deal with "that guy", to some level. Maybe I've been coddled by the fact that we are non-profit, and until recently have not had to be subjected to the more dog-eat-dog world of corporate / for profit business.
My main question, o great and powerful
hive mind, is whether or not this warrants bringing to HR. I know in all the respectful workplace meetings we have, they point out the key is the 'perception of the victim', not the intent of the accused. I'm not, and don't want to be, seen as one of those whiny crybabies who will run to HR every time someone makes a funny face. I've been here a decade and a half, and never once felt debased enough to consider going to HR, but this particular response I felt was hostile, and not becoming of a manager. I'm not sure how I can effectively collaborate with, and provide services to, someone for whom I have absolutely no respect.
tl;dr: Manager (not mine) lied, roped in other managers like a kid tattling on someone, and suggested we made wrong job placement decisions and were less skilled / valuable as a result. Am I out of my gourd by thinking I might want to make a formal complaint to HR, or am I overreacting, this is how corporate America works, welcome to the real world, shut up and deal with it?
Thanks in advance!