thicker than a snickers
February 8, 2011 5:54 PM Subscribe
I suspect that my boyfriend likes women who are 'thicker' than me. What do I do?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (27 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I've been dating someone for a few years now. We have had our share of problems, but we've been working through them. I've always been a little bothered that all of the women he's been involved with before have had the same type of body (not fat, but probably slightly overweight/just under overweight with largish breasts, middle-sized tummies, and thicker bubble butts). I am on the slim side of healthy. I have a flat stomach. I work out and eat well. My breasts are medium and my WHR is large, but not in the same pleasantly plump way. He tells me that he loves my body when prompted, but during sex he only focuses on my butt and breasts. He doesn't compliment my physique as much as other lovers have, but has assured me that he doesn't have a 'type'. He says that it is stupid that I'd even think that. He also mentions quite often how he doesn't find thin women attractive at all. A few days ago, I found a piece of paper at his house with some porn-looking links written down on them. I wasn't trying to invade his privacy. The note was in an open box next to a love letter I'd written him, so I wasn't exactly digging around.
They were all links to many photos of the same woman, and she definitely looked like the standard style of woman he'd been with before. She had the exact same body type as the last two women he'd been with for longer than a night. Is this common in relationships? Should I just deal with it? I don't expect my partner to be attracted to only me, but he has had a history of concealing many things relating to women. I'm starting to get worried that he is dating me because I fit a more "mainstream" standard of attractiveness (in addition to getting along with him well), but he'd rather be with someone soft with a cute little tummy and some extra womanly padding. How do I cope with these feelings? My 'gut' has been telling me this for awhile, so I'm not sure how to react.