Just got a job after 7 months of unemployment. So why do I still feel like a giant loser in life?
February 6, 2011 8:50 AM Subscribe
Just got a job after 7 months of unemployment. Yay! Why do I still feel like a giant loser in life?
posted by Sal and Richard to work & money (13 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
After months of searching for a job after getting laid off, I finally got a job offer, and accepted it, this week. I thought this would help me get out of the slump of depression/anxiety I've been struggling with since the lay off, but it seems to be the same, or maybe even worse.
Here are some of my thoughts on why I feel like a loser:
-The job is only part-time (but with health insurance and benefits.) I have another part-time job that I can still work at and piece together some semblance of full-time work.
-I'm taking a pretty sizeable pay cut from my previous position.
-I'm 37, single, and have burned through any savings I had while unemployed.
-I'm living with roommates because I can't afford to live on my own (Boston area is extremely expensive)
-I will likely have to ask my parents for a loan in order to make it through the next year or so.
-I got a Master's degree in 2009, was laid off from the job I got after the degree, and don't want to work in that field anymore.
-New job is in a field I was in many years ago, and it's a huge come down in responsibility. Struggling to feel positive about being back in a low-paying job that I could have gotten years ago without an advanced degree.
Here are some positives:
-Working on all of this in therapy
-Working towards a new graduate degree which I will finish in 2012.
-I'm not homeless, I have a car, and friends...
But seriously, I know the economy sucks and I should feel fortunate to find a job. Is this just a matter of reframing the situation in my mind?
I also worry about dating and how to present all of this to a potential match without feeling like a loser.
Help me see this differently!