So, me and the wife have been together for a while and the kid conversation is getting more and more and more frequent. Since we're not getting any younger, it's pretty much set we'll be doing this soon.
We're in our late 30's and we both work. We live comfortably but we're definitely not rich (we can use both incomes). She doesn't want to stop working after the baby is born, and I think she's right. We love New York and we would like to stay here (preferably Manhattan) and raise a child here. But the logistics of it is driving us crazy!
There are a lot of things about raising a child in NY we don't know the first thing about. You see, we're both from Brazil. And there, apartments are bigger, labor is cheaper, and it's common to hire live-in nannies until the kid is five. Also, there's a 4-month maternal leave, which helps kick things off.
Given that these luxuries are not available here (at least not to us mere mortals), how do people pull it off? How do women go back to work, and how soon they do? How difficult is it to find good daycare, how much money does it cost and how soon do people put their children there?
And what about older kids? Is the public school system as bad as they say? Are decent private schools as bad as they say?
I know it's not impossible, because many do it. I just don't see how they pull it off. Maybe I'm making too much out of it? This thread
was really helpful, but I think I'm looking for more basic advice, because it's really, literally, foreign to us.
Please help us have a baby without having to move to Westchester!