How to contact a newly-discovered half-sibling?
February 4, 2011 9:14 AM Subscribe
How should I go about contacting my half-sister whom I've never met?
posted by anonymous to human relations (5 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I'm not sure if I'm really related to this person or not, but my father recently told me that I have a half-sister from a previous marriage. She was born somewhere around 1959-1961, so she's roughly 50 years old. I was born in 1977, so I was born when she was almost an adult. Until very recently, I had no idea that she existed.
From what I can tell from my father, he was only married for two years or so, and the relationship ended in a divorce (which was pretty rare in 1961!). I don't know if my father had any contact with this person, and any recent contact between her and my father appears to be fairly minimal - I know she sends him Christmas cards and has visited on occasion, but that's it.
When I ask my father about her, he has referred to her as my half-sister, but has also denied that he's her biological father. I'm not sure what to think. Given my father's advanced age (77) and some cognitive decline, I'm not sure how much I can trust what he's telling me.
So, I'm left thinking that I should probably contact this person. I have her name and address, and she lives in the same city as me. I think writing a letter to her to introduce myself and broach the subject of our potential shared parentage might make sense, but I don't know what I should say.
I grew up assuming I was an only child, and now I find out about a potential half-sibling while I'm grown with my own children. This is just weird and I'm wondering what advice anybody has on how to approach the initial contact and any subsequent contact.