To register or not to register?
February 1, 2011 11:25 AM Subscribe
We're getting married! We're young and sort of poor, but so are most of our friends. Do we still get registered? What are the pros and cons? Married peoples, did you regret having a registry or not having one? What are the alternatives to traditional registries?
posted by Hwaet to Society & Culture (66 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend (fiancé, I guess) and I got in a Discussion last night about setting up a registry for our wedding. The boy says we can just get that stuff ourselves, which is probably true; we're not destitute, after all. He argues that our friends and family are showing up to have fun, not to buy us stuff, that our life is perfect the way it is and we shouldn't ask for more clutter.
I agree with all of this, and I also sympathize with the aversion to the wedding industrial complex that dictates coupes to register for stand mixers and towel sets even if they don't need them. We live in NYC, so we don't have lots of room for appliances anyways. However, I'm aiming to attend graduate school full time for the next two years starting this September (wedding is in October), and I worry about our finances. It would be nice to to have some basics to get married life started, but certainly not essential.
We've already decided to ask anyone flying in from out of town to not get us gifts, since we know the trip will be expensive. I'm also aware of registries that put donations in our name. I'm mainly interested in knowing how other couples have dealt with the pressure to register, whether it was worth it in the end or if it was a pain. Any explanations as to why you did or didn't register would be helpful as well.