My boyfriend wants to take a break to study for Step 1.
January 30, 2011 8:38 AM Subscribe
My boyfriend is taking a test at the beginning of March that will pretty much determine his career. (USMLE Step 1) He wants to take a break from our relationship during February to study (i.e. he doesn't want to see me - we'd still talk on the phone.) We have a very strong relationship and have been dating for a year, but I don't feel like this is right. Can you help me put this in perspective?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (56 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend is freaking out about taking this test which basically rehashes the first two years of medical school. He studies about 12-14 hours a day.
We've been dating about a year and see each other a few times a week, including weekends (i.e. he sleeps at my place or I sleep at his.) I have a fulltime job. I'm also fully cognizant of his study schedule and have spent many nights during the past year reading/doing work while he studies. I like being near him, even if he's busy.
Now he wants to take a break for all of February because he says he's easily irritable and everything stresses him out. I'm concerned that this is essentially the beginning of the end of the relationship. I asked if we could spend one night a week together and he asked me why I just couldn't understand what he was going through.
I love him. The past year has been great. Has anyone been through something similar and come out okay on the other side?