Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
January 29, 2011 2:32 PM Subscribe
This is for all y'all who are GBLTQQIA-identified (let's use 'queer' for short). Do you find--or how do you find--that living in a non-queer world puts pressure on your intimate relationships and partnerships?
posted by anonymous to human relations (24 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
My partner and I are having some problems and are working hard at resolving them. But it occurred to me yesterday, when we were at a social event with a really big group of queer folks (which hardly ever happens for us anymore) we were more relaxed and affectionate with each other than we had been in a while. It was like I got to take off my straight suit for an hour or two and everything was easier for us. It made me wonder how much being around straight folks 99% of the time, immersed in heterosocial norms, puts pressure on my relationship. (I'm not saying it causes our problems, but it seems like it might compound them. Does this happen for you? How do you deal with it?
(I'm really only interested in hearing from queer-identified people themselves. Sorry, helpful allies.)