Can I let myself be happy now or should I guard my heart?
January 22, 2011 4:02 PM Subscribe
Four days ago, my partner got an email from her #1 grad school choice that sounded good. How excited should we be? I know there are many variables at work here that neither you nor we can know at this time, but I want to know if I can be excited and happy or if I should try to calm myself down. I know many people here are phD's from the hard sciences as well and I am hoping you can provide some perspective. Here are the details:
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--this is for a phD program in the hard sciences
--the email said her application was "among the strongest" they had received
--this is a state school
--they are offering to pay for her out of state travel costs to visit the school where they will pay for her meals and lodging. she will be sharing a room with other prospective students. Honestly, we think it is very likely that they sent the same email to everyone and they tell everyone who they are bringing for the weekend visit that their application was "among the strongest"
Here is what I don't know, and I am hoping you can tell me- how good of a sign is it that they are paying for her expenses to come and visit? Do school routinely pay for a lot of students to come visit them knowing that they will reject a lot of them, simply so that they can have a wide field to choose from? Or if you've gotten this far, does it mean you are pretty much in barring some major gaffe?
Anothing thing: this school is her #1 choice for many many reasons and she absolutely wants to go there if she is accepted. If she makes that clear when she speaks to the faculty in her interviews, will that make them less likely to offer a good stipend? What's the best strategy here, to wear your heart on your sleeve or be a bit more reserved?
Please tell me how safe or not it is to let ourselves feel happy anticipation. For myself especially I'd rather expect the worst internally if there is still significant doubt about her chances.