What can I do about my roommate?
January 18, 2011 1:10 AM Subscribe
I'm not on the lease, my roommate is. He's kicking me out. What are my options?
posted by moons in june to Law & Government (39 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I tried to boil this down to just the need-to-know information. It's pretty hard when I feel like there's so much going on here:
I started living with my roommate, Mr. X, back in August when he let me know the space was up for grabs. I was, of course, fully expecting to sign a lease and start my new life in an awesome new place. After I'd moved my stuff in, he informed me that I wouldn't be on the lease and the apartment was technically a one-person apartment. The lease stated that the landlord could evict the leasee if more than one person was living there. He'd been living there for two years with his previous roommate, and assured me that having two people living there was alright with the landlord in a "wink-wink nudge nudge" (his words) kind of way.
Taking his word on that for the next 6 months? Huge mistake.
For clarity's sake, it was agreed that I pay half the rent and half the utilities etc. Everything split down the middle, totally equal. So in my mind, Mr. X was not in any way an authority.
Fast forward to the beginning of this month, roommate disagreements led Mr. X to no longer want me living there. The way he delivered this information was, in the middle of an argument, shouting "You have 30 days". My impression was that it was a threat to scare me into doing what he wanted, and didn't think of it again. He never mentioned it again.
Mr. X had been adamant from the beginning about my having no contact with the landlord, but things had gotten to a point where I wanted to discuss the situation with him (the landlord), fully aware that the conversation might end in my being asked to vacate immediately. I was prepared to deal with that. I just wanted to have all of my information straight, so there was nothing Mr. X could be filtering out. I just wanted everything to be right with everyone involved.
Mr. X refused to give me the landlord's number.
Earlier today, I told him I would be contacting the landlord whether or not he gave me the number. When I came home from work tonight, Mr. X informed me that he talked to the landlord, that they "were square" just as long as I moved out, and that I have until the end of the month (January) to do it. To him, from the minute he shouted that I had 30 days, the clock was ticking. He told me he didn't need to write it, and got mean and angry when I told him I had no idea he was serious.
He told me that if I contacted the landlord at all, Mr. X would call him as soon as he found out and claim I was being unreasonable and request I leave immediately.
This is all overwhelming to me, because from where I stand, I did nothing worthy of being kicked out (I tried to leave all the roommate drama out, this is already long enough), followed the rules, tried to do the right thing, and still have 3 weeks to somehow find a roommate and enough money for a new place and security deposit. PS, I'm broke and work two jobs. Money - not so much. Extra time - not so much.
What can I do so that I have more time? Is it worth calling the landlord to try to explain? How can I quell the urge to kill Mr. X for screwing me over so fucking hard? What are my options?
I'm pretty upset right now and not feeling totally coherent and I feel like I'm leaving so much out, so please ask any questions to help clarify.