Should I let him stay in the closet?
January 17, 2011 5:24 AM Subscribe
I had a crush on a boy. It ended badly; he confessed to me that he doesn’t know if he is straight or gay or bi. There was crying, hugging, and complete regret from him since he has never told anyone this ever.
posted by jenlovesponies to human relations (31 answers total)
We have since hung out and worked together. Everything is basically back to how it was before, except I am not trying to date him and I know his secret. So far, the closest we have come to talking about it was that I mentioned that he ignored my text messages for four days, which was a record, and when we talked at work in front of other people I referred to his “future romantic partner” rather than “future wife”. He had said he never wants me to bring it up again. I want to help him. What’s the best way to support him? Should I really never bring this up again? Should I encourage him to talk to a professional or tell other people? Ask him if he wants to go to a gay bar? Pretend that I think he is straight? Continue to let our coworkers think we are dating, or tell them... something? What will be best for his mental health and life?