How do I start the mtf transgender care process?
January 12, 2011 8:09 AM Subscribe
For my entire life I have known I was transgender (mtf). I am only now finally ready to do something about it. How?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (15 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Throughout college, too cowardly to really make any serious changes with my life, I would "dress up" and go out with friends who were comfortable with the idea. Although this gave me an incredible rush (being accepted as a female made me feel like I was able to live my true personality out in the open), it was dishonest to boys who showed an interest in me. Instead of batting them off, I stupidly would allow advances to be made until I could run away from revealing my secret. It wasn't fair and it wasn't something I should have done.
Very recently after getting closer to a boy at a house party, he discovered my identity and basically beat the crap out of me. No broken bones or head trauma, luckily, but it has scared me pretty severely. Although it was a pretty awful experience it might have been the wake up call I needed to stop "playing games" and get real help.
I've talked to my regular therapist about my gender dysphoria and he had recommended the Mazzoni Center in downtown Philadelphia (I live right outside the suburbs). There is a free group therapy session every Thursday that he suggested might lead to hooking up with a more specialized therapist (I'm Cigna insured). I want to start something I have been putting off for awhile: transitioning. Although I haven't said anything to my parents mostly out of fear that they have enough to deal with already (other siblings, jobs, etc) I feel that they might be accepting.
My questions (answering any would be wonderful): What can I do to better educate myself in the meantime? What websites are the best resources? How can I meet more transgender folk in the area? How do I deal with academics (I'll be graduating college this semester) in the future when applying to grad school (or gasp, jobs)? What can I expect with HRT and when might I be able to start? Electrolysis? It goes on and on...
Anyone with experience in the philly area with this type of thing: bless you so much. Metafilter has always been a favorite place of mine to hang out and I appreciate any responses.