I'm ugly. How do I cope?
January 9, 2011 8:15 PM Subscribe
I got some pictures of myself from a recent party and it's depressing me, because I am ugly. Even all prettied up, I'm just not pretty. How do I come to terms with my appearance?
posted by Baethan to health & fitness (59 answers total) 49 users marked this as a favorite
I try not to look at pictures too much, but I'm pretty sure it's my big, somewhat bulbous nose and my very lopsided smile that make me look "ugly." My body is okay, my skin is okay, and my hair and clothes can be altered easily, but the physical shape of my face is a bit harder to deal with. I'm not sure I'll ever want to change myself surgically-- and I won't have the money for it for a long time in any case-- so I need to accept the way I look. How do I change the way I think, or the way I perceive myself?
My boyfriend tells me all the time that I'm beautiful, but I feel like the photographic evidence of my ugliness contradicts him. I worry that someday he'll realize I'm not pretty (or he'll stop pretending) and go off to find someone as perfectly gorgeous as he is.
I like human contact, so I'm going to have to let my boyfriend and everyone else see my face. Rationally, I'm sure I could look a whole lot worse and that my level of attractiveness doesn't really matter in the scheme of things. People don't run in disgust when they see me and I know self-worth shouldn't be based on other people's opinions. However, when I see pictures of myself I want to destroy them and hide forever-- whether or not I'm just terminally unphotogenic, it seriously damages my confidence and self image. What do I do?