We split up 20 years ago, can we do it again?
January 5, 2011 11:25 AM Subscribe
Work help: how to break this impasse?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We met at work and dated briefly 20 years ago. We were not compatible, broke up and have both long since moved on. We did not speak or acknowledge the other's presence until we were forced to work together a few moths ago. Ideally we would not have to work together, but circumstances beyond our control have forced us together.
We mostly communicate by email though we sit ten cubes apart. Now we are tasked with writing a procedures manual for a new project, which will involve us sitting in a conference room for hours, days, weeks at a time and wordsmithing a giant document. She's not super smart, part of the reason it didn't work out too well.
Neither of us wants to be the one to go to our boss and say 'hey, I don't really want to work with this person.' We're supposed to keep up this fiction that we're all grown up and team players. It's a new year, life is short, and I don't want to be miserable. I need the job, I have too much time invested to leave. I have many feelers out, and I'm trying to get moved, but things are tough and nothing is really happening.
She's not really my boss, but is now my 'team leader.' We are exactly the same in terms of seniority, job title, etc.
How can I/we break this impasse without looking like I'm a bad guy or refusing an assignment? Not working together would benefit both of us, but I don't know how to bring up the subject with her or my boss without losing face.