Why did she tell me she was raped?
January 3, 2011 2:05 PM Subscribe
She told me she was raped. Why?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (26 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I recently started very casually dating a girl I've had a crush on for a few months. Things have been slow going, but purposefully so. She knows I'm only a year out of a really long relationship and she said she had history too, so we shouldn't rush things. I've been fine with that because I still have lots of relationship issues I'm working through and I'm admittedly just a confused ass when it comes to figuring out who/what I want right now.
The other night (admittedly after much drinking) she started acting very strangely around my friends. After we were alone I kind of called her on it and she bust out with the fact that she had been raped in the past. She then proceeded to claim that this now meant I'd never want to touch her nor would I be interested in her. She was of course wrong.
This has been a bit much on my head though. I'm not totally sure why she decided to confide in me so early, but I feel honored that she trusts me with this info. I'm a bit concerned though that I now have some extra power to hurt her. We haven't been at this long at all, what if I start to think it won't work out? Also, we haven't talked about exclusivity at all, but maybe she is assuming it?
I guess I'm looking for input from others who have had lovers/SOs that have confided such things in you. Also any input from rape victims who have confided in others. What made you do it?