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December 28, 2010 2:19 PM Subscribe
I'm crushing on a coworker - what to do? Complication: extended business trip
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (26 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
So I have a major crush on a coworker in a different department. We normally only have limited contact at work - and at first we didn't even really like each other (I thought he was arrogant). However, working on a specific project over the course of the last few months brought us closer together. The vibe between us became more and more flirty, even though he is normally extremely serious and ultra-professional. Then (cue the clichés!) at the company holiday party, at the end of the night, we ended up in a corner flirting quite furiously – at one point he playfully grabbed both my arms while we were talking, and ohmygoodnessgracious… I felt that touch reverberate through my whole body. It’s been two weeks and I still can’t get it out of my head. I cannot think of the last time I felt such a rush at a man’s touch.
It seems he likes me, too. Lots of eye contact, big smiles, throwing glances at me from across the cafeteria, calling me when an email would suffice. We had coffee together yesterday at work (my suggestion, but he eagerly accepted and insisted on buying the coffee) – it was our first one-on-one contact since the Christmas party, and we ended up chatting for ages. It was lovely.
So I’d like to get to know this guy better. Like, in a dating context. It seems that he is interested in me (all signs point to yes - RIGHT?!) As bad luck would have it though, he is leaving at the end of the week for a three-week project overseas.
As we wrapped up our coffee chat yesterday, I mentioned that I needed his help with one of my projects and he replied with a smile, “well, everything has its price, you know.” It seemed a bit like he was testing the waters in some way, so I replied, “I guess you should make me an offer, then.” I was tempted to say something else along the lines of “How about I buy you a drink,” but it felt like the ball was kind of in his court so I just kept quiet. (Hindsight D’OH!!) He just smiled and didn’t say anything else.
So what is my question? I guess it is this - assuming that he is indeed interested, and I know y’all can’t answer that for me but any opinions on it are gladly accepted - what is the thing to do next? He told me he would stop by my office before he leaves (to give me something that he could just as easily send via email) so this feels like a last chance for three weeks. Should I drop some hints that I’d like to see him socially when he gets back? Just leave the whole topic until he returns? Just sit tight and wait for him to make the next move? Forget it because he’s a coworker (and I should mention that I am relatively new to the company... oh but I can’t forget that touch, AskMeFi…)