How to get along with a coke addict?
December 20, 2010 1:40 PM Subscribe
Looking for insights into dealing with a dear friend who's into a decades long cocaine addiction. We share a dwindling group of friends and many of us are broken hearted about how things have turned out. Is there a point where we move on? I know I can't fix him, but?
posted by eggm4n to Health & Fitness (8 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I've got a friend who's marriage dissolved about a year and half ago due to his coke habit. Although I never really put it all together until about a year or so ago, he's been struggling with addiction for many years.
He'd been in and out of rehab, fired from every job he's had for stealing or going MIA. He lived with his mom for a while in a horrible little trailer out in the country after his wife kicked him out the house.
My wife and I actually let him live with us for a few months while he tried to get back on his feet. That's when we learned first hand he had a serious coke habit. He'd been using his unemployment checks to buy drugs, and then would vanish for a couple days.
I found him at his mom's house. Where he came clean to me me about what was happening with him. He said he needed help and wanted to get into a rehab program.
My wife and I worked with his elderly mother to find a facility, luckily he still had insurance with his families policy and we got him into an inpatient facility.
After a month when the insurance ran out, we let him live with us. We turned our house into a "sober house", drove him to AA meetings everyday, fed him, and hung out with him virtually all the time. After a couple months, he felt he was ready to drive his car again.
A few months passed, I think he had 90 days, and he had a relapse. When we confronted him about he blew up at us, packed up and left.
We still have many friends in common, and still talk to him occasionally. He's not sober anymore. (Neither am I, for the record, I quit drinking while he lived with me though) I don't know how to act around him anymore, I get uncomfortable when he calls. I wish I could have done more for him, but I don't think it's smart to do anything like what I'd done in the past for him.