Email and Text Subject Lines
December 19, 2010 8:05 AM Subscribe
New Relationship Filter: My gf sends me several emails and texts w/o subject lines every day. I requested she fill in the subject lines in future messages. Much argument ensued. Please help me sort this out.
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I am a male in my 30's and my girlfriend of 2 months is also in her 30's.
My gf likes to send me several messages (photos, videos, links) a day via her iphone. The issue is that she leaves the subject line blank. Today, for example, there were 13 messages and looking at them I can not tell which ones were videos or links to articles. I use labels in Gmail and have created an auto-archiving set up for her messages.
I told her today how much I appreciated her sharing events from her day and the things she finds on the net and suggested she add some information on the subject line, e.g., cat video or winter travel article.
She was angry with my suggestion and said, among other things, that I was being "controlling" and "ridiculous"; that her messages were often sent on the fly and she did not have time to enter a subject line. When I pointed out that she could add a subject line when she was not on the fly so at least those messages had subjects, she seemed to grow more angry and said she was not going to fill in the subject line.
My answer to the claim that I was being controlling was that including a subject line is a standard convention and I did not care how she titled it, just provide some information about whether the message was a video, photo, article, et cetera. I pointed out filling in the subject line is universal in my experience; I do not receive emails from anyone that routinely omit the subject line.
She remains angry at me and insists she will not provide any info on the subject line. I am ok with that, it is not the end of the world, but I am perplexed that her reaction has been so strong and that she rejects what is a universal convention (she said “I don’t!” when I pointed out that everyone I know and have ever heard of fills in the subject line).
So, Ask Metafilter, please give me some unvarnished advice: Am I being unreasonable? Was this a ridiculous request I made? Do people routinely not fill in subject lines on messages sent from iphones? Feel free to address anything you think I may be not getting.