How to tell my dad about my abortion?
December 10, 2010 10:49 AM Subscribe
How to tell my dad about my abortion? It seems like the time has come and gone. Do I tell, and if so, how?
posted by anonymous to human relations (32 answers total)
My husband and I experienced an unwanted pregnancy this summer. We both knew immediately, for several reasons, that it would be best to terminate this pregnancy, so I did. I think I felt/feel normal sadness about it.
My question is: is it too late to tell my father? I told my mom within a few days, partly because I know she cares about the important things in my life, and partly to explain my despondence and distance over the few weeks prior. I didn't tell my dad because the easy time for a phone call with him came and went, and then I was home with the parents (and other family) for a big happy event and it never felt like the right time. Six months have now passed.
I'm pretty sure my mom didn't tell him. He's also fairly conservative--has grown more so over the years--and I can't read his thoughts/feelings on abortion anymore. We are very close and I tell him nearly everything. He probably understands my emotional world more than anyone besides my mom. He's never NOT supported my decisions, but this feels different somehow. Plus there's the whole "this was my first grandchild" thing, which is why I didn't tell my mom right away and had to work up to it. (I know it was not really fair to tell my mom and not be able for her talk to her husband (my dad) about it, but she more or less offered that option to me.)
Do I tell him, and if so, do you all have any advice for how?
(Anonymous because I don't want this linked to my name on the internets. Throwaway: askmefiabortion at gmail)