I think my mind-body connection is out of whack
November 25, 2010 3:32 PM Subscribe
I get extreme physical reactions to my emotions. Is this normal, and if not, how do I better learn to manage my emotions so that it doesn't affect my health and my life so much?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (10 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
There's the usual fatigue, little appetite, listlessness in response to stress. But I've also noticed the following about myself over the years, in response to acute situations:
-- I lost most of my friends, including a nasty breakup with my best friend, when I went through a bad patch in my life. For about 2-3 years afterwards, anytime someone said something nice to me or tried to get close emotionally, I literally flinched, because there was a physical hurt involved. The closest comparison I can come to is someone touching the skin of a burn victim. That was my reaction exactly. Needless to say, I did a fair amount of avoidance/pretending/was generally not a very nice person during those years. Even now, I still "hurt", and so being around people still doesn't come easily to me.
-- I wound up spending a night (by accident) with someone I had only known for a few days, but whom I had a strong attraction to. Nothing happened at all. But my period stopped for three months afterwards with no explanation, which really freaked me out.
-- I grew up in a house where my parents always argued and paid little attention to my likes/interests. I spent almost all my childhood years suffering migraine-like headaches (at least, they were strong enough so that many times I wanted to throw up--but never actually doing so-- because of the pain) very frequently. The doctor couldn't find anything wrong with me, and actually I remember most people thinking that I was making it up when I kept complaining of my headaches.
I'm pretty sensitive to my surroundings; I remember getting very stressed once just waiting with the other students outside a final exam room. I walked away and sat by myself somewhere, and immediately felt much better. But, my reactions are just so extreme in comparison to the situation, and I don't know how to manage them. Are most sensitive people like this? I guess I want to be reassured that there are others like me out there, and see how others have coped.