Annoying ex, leave my mom out of this
November 22, 2010 1:59 PM Subscribe
How do I get my ex-boyfriend to stop contacting my mom?
posted by and1 to human relations (38 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
We broke up six years ago and now live in different states. We kept in some contact at first (text messages, occasional phone calls) but it got to a point where I wasn't interested in keeping contact because he'd end up cussing me out or insulting my boyfriend, or his girlfriend would get pissed off or some other kind of drama that I'd really rather not be involved in. Not responding I guess pissed him off a lot, so he'd contact my mom (emails and phone calls), and then tell me that my mom liked him more and act like they had some special bond. This was still more than a couple years ago. My mom thought it was funny and that he was being sweet but when she started telling me about how he was so hurt by me and all of the "his side" of old arguments /events, I said I didn't like them talking because her information was wrong and I wasn't about to start defending myself. When she told me that he was planning to "get" me back I said that I didn't want her to talk to him but at at the very least I didn't want to hear about it. She respected that and hasn't mentioned him since.
I've ignored the dozen or so texts and phone calls a year from him, but recently we've been in contact since he's engaged and starting a family (I figured this meant he had grown up some). He is inappropriately affectionate, and says that he and my mom still talk and that she will never like my current boyfriend as much as she likes him. I'm annoyed because I'd like to be on good terms with everyone but I don't think it's possible. I don't believe that my mom is as nice to him as he says. I figure I can go back to ignoring him (which has me failing the "good terms" attempt) or find a way to convince him that contacting my mom isn't cool.