Adding one at the opposite end. 16 year old "adopted" daughter.
November 19, 2010 4:56 PM Subscribe
How do we "parent" a 16 year old girl?
My family is taking in a 16 year old girl to be a new member of our family. She's an amazing young woman in a tough situation. No behavior or academic issues (I taught her in 8th grade, she babysits for us regularly), some emotional issues (most likely due to her environment). We're going to go through the process of temporary custody, so this is not a question about "the system" or "legality". This is a question of family dynamics. We have other children in the house who are super excited as well, but our oldest is 7 and we have no idea how to come up with rules, routines, and boundaries for a 16 year old.
Of course we'll have to come up with what will work for us, but what kind of things should we be thinking about? We're already talking about curfew, bedtime!!!!?????, computer use, etc. What should we be thinking about that we might not be.
Any help from those with teens or those who have adopted older kids would be appreciated.
posted by allthewhile to human relations (17 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite