I want to initiate a causal hook up with a newly single friend. How?
I'm a male in my early 20s. My friend, we can call her Jill, is the same age. We are both students, neither of us is a virgin or totally inexperienced with dealing with the opposite sex.
Jill broke up with a fairly long term boyfriend about 3ish weeks ago. We are both friends, not exactly best friends of course but we are pretty close. Over the past 4 months we have frequently been spending time hanging out alone.
And here is the kicker, I DO NOT want to date this girl or enter into any sort of "boyfriend girlfriend" type of arrangement. What I do want to do is have some sort of casual hook up(s) with her. I don't really want to say friends with benefits(Gah, I hate that term) but that is pretty close to what I have in mind. As I said before, we are often alone together, often bored, and often horny. I couldn't see this going beyond making out and some groping/manual stimulation so it's not like we would be getting super intimate anyway. I'd even be cool with it being a one time experience, but how do we go from sitting there talking to making out?
Only problems are, (1) How do I initiate this? I have never been one to have any sort of random hook ups before so I really have no clue. (2) What if she says no? I wouldn't be offended if she rejects me, hell, I wouldn't be offended if she tells me I'm gross but I really would like to avoid harming our friendship AND the possibility of her telling all our mutual friends that I tried to put the moves on her(gossip does get around, unfortunately ).
I did read this question
and it had some good insights but I feel like my situation is far different enough to ask my own question. Also, please don't suggest that I get her drunk, I don't operate like that.