Friendly? Sure. Friends? No thanks.
November 13, 2010 9:48 AM Subscribe
My ex wants to be friends. I don't really.
posted by anonymous to human relations (41 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
She broke up with me, and treated me pretty bad. I was pretty torn up for a long time afterwards. I was angry, hurt, and depressed for months, and I'm still dealing with some of the financial fallout.
I've moved on, dated several people since then, got a nice happy life. I don't really care if I ever see her or talk to her again. I've seen her out and we are friendly in the way that casual acquaintances are friendly.
But she's been making overtures lately, saying she wants to be friends and asking questions about my life. I'm not really comfortable with this. A naturally arising friendship, if we happened to find ourselves in the same circles and doing the same things again, might be fine, but I don't really like the idea of spending time maintaining a relationship of any sort with her.
But I don't want to tell her to sod off either.
So what's a friendly (but not too friendly) way to say: "hey, I'm not really interested in maintaining a friendship with you right now" without burning bridges?