Help me potty train my four-year-old
November 12, 2010 12:05 PM Subscribe
My four-year-old daughter is still not potty-trained. We've tried everything. What are we not thinking of?
posted by Pater Aletheias to health & fitness (43 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
AJ turned four in July. She still has daily accidents. We're out of ideas.
We've done sticker charts and rewards. We've done naked days. We've put her in panties. She's watched Mommy go. We've read the potty books and watched the Elmo potty DVD. In fact, the Dora potty book was her favorite book for months and months. She goes to preschool twice a week and sees other kids going to the bathroom and staying dry and clean. We've tried sending her to the bathroom every half hour. And we're getting nowhere.
The kid is well-adjusted, super bright, and either right on target or way ahead in every respect except this. She understands the concepts, and she knows that she's supposed to use the potty. Occasionally she will ask to go pee, or even just go by herself, but she still has urine accidents and I don't think she has ever in her life managed to poop in the toilet.
Could there be some medical reason for this delay? She's completely healthy and has a good height and weight for her age. The only hint I have of a possible problem is that her stool is always soft. Not diarrhea, but it's never hard at all. Kind of like peanut butter. Once you get that image out of your head, if you can think of anything we're overlooking, either a magically effective potty training technique or some medical or other reason that she's not getting the hang of this, I will appreciate it greatly. If you come up with the winning solution, I will love you forever.
Oh, one other thing. She's never minded being messy. At all. She will happily sit in her poop, even in panties, for a long, long time. I do think that makes her less motivated than other kids, but even so, this is crazy.