Help me help her deal with an unnecessarily angry neighbor
November 8, 2010 2:20 PM Subscribe
How should my brother's fiancee deal with a neighbor who's lying to the landlord in order to get her (and/or her dog) evicted?
posted by mingodingo to human relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My brother's fiancee moved to London a couple of months ago for grad school, and took her dog with her. She rented a really nice place in the country, and when they get married in about a year, my brother is going to move out there and they will live in this place for another three years, while she finishes school.
Her dog is generally very quiet and well behaved. However, a couple of weeks ago, my brother went to visit her, and she had to go pick him up at the airport in the middle of the night. Unused to having her gone during this time, her dog apparently howled quite a bit, according to a neighbor in her building who was very upset. She apologized profusely and explained the situation, and that it wouldn't be a recurring thing. And it hasn't been.
However, yesterday the landlord called my brother's fiancee, and told her that her neighbor had reported the dog being noisy and howling all the time during the night. Of course, the fiancee is home during the night, and knows that other than that one night, he's not ever been noisy in the evenings. The fiancee explained the situation to the landlord, who seemed to believe her, and then asked the landlord if it would make sense for her to reach out to the neighbor and try to open the lines of communication a little more. The landlord agreed this would be a good idea.
Additional oddness: the neighbor was apparently very friendly to the fiancee during her first couple of weeks in London. Also, the neighbor has a small dog (the fiancee's dog is big)...I just find it strange that one dog person would lie to get another dog person in trouble, over one relatively unimportant incident.
The fiancee had a hard time finding a place that would accept her dog and was close to school, and moving would be incredibly difficult. And while she's willing to reach out to the neighbor, I'm concerned that someone who would lie like this would not respond rationally.
So, should she talk to the neighbor? If so, what should she say? If talking to her would be a bad idea, what other strategies might put her mind at ease, supposing this neighbor continues to lie to the landlord about her dog's behavior?