Should I tell my boyfriend that we're friends with a long-ago ex?
November 5, 2010 12:40 PM Subscribe
Should I tell my boyfriend that we're friends with a long-ago ex? My social circle includes a guy that I dated 10 years ago for less than a year. He is now married to someone else, and there's no lingering unresolved business between us. He and his wife are part of my main group of friends, but as they are kind of busy, I don't see an awful lot of them, maybe once a month. Of course my current boyfriend (of 1 year) is always invited and often comes when this group hangs out
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (29 answers total)
. I have never seen a reason to tell my current boyfriend that oh by the way, so-and-so and I dated in college. It's never come up in the group setting and it's simply not relevant as far as I'm concerned. At this point I've been friends with him for so much longer than we dated that *I* can barely remember we were an item for a few months. The ex and I are not super close anymore, either.
I would be fine with my current boyfriend knowing, but I think it would be making it way more than it is to go out of my way to point it out to him. I'm just a little concerned that one day he'll find out and be alarmed that I never told him. If it were relevant in a conversation, I'd mention it, it just never has come up.
Am I obligated to make a point to tell him, or is it fine to let it go unless it comes up later?