How do I cheer up my MIL? And how do I prepare my son for the worst?
November 4, 2010 11:04 AM Subscribe
My mother-in-law's lung and lymph cancer is spreading. Outlook is not good. I would love some ideas to cheer her up or show solidarity. I would also like resources for when the inevitable comes and I have to explain to my three-year-old why he won't ever see his grandmother again.
posted by middleclasstool to human relations (10 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
It started as lung cancer, spread to her lymph nodes, responded well to chemo and surgery, but now it's spread to her liver. We're remaining optimistic despite the odds, and so I'm looking for suggestions to cheer her up and encourage her, particularly from cancer survivors -- what did people do for you that stood out? I'm already thinking of shaving my head once her hair loss starts up again.
As I said, we're remaining optimistic, but we also want to be prepared, which means explaining death to my little boy. What books or videos are particularly good?
(Disclaimer to Facebook friends who know my real name -- please don't post anything to my wall about this just yet, if you're so inclined. We have family that still hasn't been notified -- this news is an hour old -- and I don't want them finding out through FB first.)