Helping a friend with bipolar disorder
March 30, 2005 2:10 PM Subscribe
I think my ex-boyfriend may be bipolar. He refuses to admit that, or seek help. His mother and I are both worried, and both want to help, but we don't know what to do. Does anyone have any experience convincing someone to seek help?
posted by occhiblu to Human Relations (29 answers total)
We recently broke up, and his behavior was so surreal and out-of-character that I can't help but think he's not psychological healthy -- he yelled at me for being upset about my mother's death, for example, saying that "other people have problems, too" (she just died a week ago; we're not talking some should-be-over-it-by-now drama); he twisted every innocuous thing I had done recently into some sort of symbol of how much I hated him, etc. He's also been totally consumed by online poker lately, staying up till 4am and then getting back up at 8am to play more (thankfully, he hasn't lost much money at it -- that I know of). He's said he feels worthless, that he fucks everything up, that everyone's against him (including his mother, who was simply trying to get him to get some therapy, which she offered to pay for -- and now he's refusing to even speak to her). He's quit his job, has no income, and now that I've moved out, has nowhere to live. He's not really doing anything to fix any of this.
Given how he's treated me, I'm wary of even talking to him again. I have been emailing with his mother, though, because I felt like someone should at least know how he's been behaving so that maybe they could help.
She's considering some sort of intervention when she comes to town in a few weeks. Do any of you know if something like this would help? He's refused therapy recently because he says "it implies he's broken" and, like I said, he thinks everyone's against him -- I'm worried any sort of group intervention would just intesify that.
How do you convince someone that they need help? Especially when the person in question has already decided that you're the enemy? I'm really wary of further isolating him.