Sister in the closet: how to be good to someone coming out.
October 25, 2010 7:05 PM Subscribe
How to be a good friend to someone who may be coming out.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (23 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend and I were at his parents' house this weekend and his younger sister was home from college with a friend; various things led both my boyfriend and I to independently think that this friend might be her girlfriend. (they were very cute together). If she is indeed gay or bi, she's not out to her parents or family. Is there a way to let her know that there are at least two people who are LGBT-friendly and that they'd be happy to give her a big hug when she chooses to come out. Neither he nor I want to be aggressive about this - it is her life and we're not looking to make any drama. We see her approximately once a month, usually in the context of family. Get some rainbow pins? Mention a gay friend or two? She's in her first year of college and is close enough to us that we can drag her out for pizza easily.
Am I bean plating? The recent suicides in the news are probably encouraging me to over think. If I should just go and let her live her life and not consider bugging her, tell me. I don't want to be well-meaning but clumsy and screw up.
If you are gay and came out to friends and family, what did your friends and family do that was good and what was bad? Would you have welcomed knowing that on your list of people to tell, there were a few who were going to be happy for you? I know that different people want different things, but I'd like to get an idea of what would have been good for you.