What to give a mentor as a thank-you gift?
October 25, 2010 2:11 AM Subscribe
Is it appropriate to give a thank you gift to a mentor, and what can I give someone who doesn't drink, doesn't eat junk food, and doesn't like flowers?
posted by lollusc to human relations (27 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I got a lot of advice and support from someone in the research office when preparing a grant application. She met with me once a week for months. Although this what she is paid to do, I feel like she did an exceptional job and I really appreciate it. I know that some evenings she stayed an hour or two past her home-time to give me extra help.
I just heard that my application was successful. Just so it's clear how much this means to me: I will now have a job for the next three years doing exactly what I love the most, in large part thanks to this mentor. I feel like giving her some sort of thank you gift. Is this appropriate, or is it weird?
If it is appropriate, I'm not sure what to give her. My first thought would be a bottle of champagne, but she doesn't drink. My second thought would be flowers, but I'm in Australia, and a huge number of people I know here are weird about flowers: they dislike imported flowers and think only native plants should be allowed, and/or they hate seeing cut flowers die, or something. I have a feeling this woman is one of those people, although I can't remember exactly what she said that made me think that. I thought about a live potted plant, but it seems kind of mean to give someone something they will have to take care of forever. She only eats super-healthy food, so the thought of a fruit basket crossed my mind, but that has connotations of a "get well soon" thing to me. I feel like gift certificates are a bit tacky, as well as too impersonal.
Any other ideas? I'd like to spend somewhere between $30 and $60.