Though hope is frail, it's hard to kill.
October 23, 2010 2:15 PM Subscribe
How to maintain hope that I will find someone to be in a committed relationship in the face of what feels like overwhelming odds?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 22 users marked this as a favorite
I am a 30 year old single woman. About a year ago my long-term boyfriend and I broke up, and since then, just about nothing. I had a one night stand that was pretty terrible. Despite telling my friends and meeting friends of friends that I would really like to start dating again, I hardly ever seem to meet any men. Needless to say, I haven't even been on one date since my ex and I broke up. Guys don't even hit on me, and I know that I'm not unattractive.
Online dating isn't really an option for me--I live in a foreign country. This evening I went to several parties...and again, nothing. I didn't even meet anyone I hadn't already known before. One guy that I am interested in, it turns out my friend is dating him.
This kind of effort, to be out in the hope of meeting someone, anyone to just flirt with for a bit, is exhausting and sometimes, to be honest, rather soul-destroying. I feel that I'm constantly disappointed; probably my expectations are too high. It would be nice just to go out on a date again, it would be nice just to meet someone.
So how can I stay hopeful? At this point, being a hermit for the winter sounds like a good idea.