What would a dog actually mean for me?
October 21, 2010 2:31 PM Subscribe
How much work is a dog?
posted by anonymous to pets & animals (65 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
A big 'doggy' dog, like a lab or golden retriever?
My partner deeply wants one; it's a real quality of life issue for him that he doesn't have one. I want to make this work if at all possible, but I have serious concerns about it.
You can help by giving me some info about how much work a dog actually is. (Factors: we live in a small house with a backyard; we don't have indoor spaces where a dog could get exercise; and we live in a climate that gets very cold and snowy in winter.)
I would be doing most -- often all -- of the daytime dog care, c. 7a-7p (especially during the months when my partner's traveling extensively for work) along with caring for our baby, which is already something I'm doing a lot of hard work on in terms of career/life balance. A big issue is that, on the two days a week when the baby's in daycare, my time would no longer be 100% my own, which really affects me because my work needs long blocks of focus. I don't know if a dog can (or should) go long blocks with no attention. In the winter, the dog would have 12+ hour days with no walks, I assume using the backyard instead (since the cold would be unsafe for walking with baby).
Also please talk to me about how a dog would feel if the person generally home with it does not have a physical/playful or 'doggy' relationship with it. I have no experience with and no orientation toward dogs. (When my partner asked, while we were dating, I said I'm okay with dogs that are calm and that don't jump up on you and slobber all over you, which is true. I didn't understand until later that 'calm' is really not a flavor of dog that will make him feel like he has a dog.)