Should I stop sexually fantasizing about my coworker?
October 21, 2010 6:06 AM Subscribe
I'm married and I have a crush on a married coworker. Should I stop sexually fantasizing about him?
posted by anonymous to human relations (46 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I am a happily married woman. My husband and I have sex regularly. I have no interest in cheating on my husband or damaging my marriage.
However, I work with this man at the office that I find extremely attractive. We work closely together on a daily basis. There is some chemistry there - the goofy smiles, standing a little too close in personal space, etc and it appears to me to be mutual. I have fantasized now quite a few times what it would be like to be with this man.
I realize that I could be playing with fire. For my part, I make sure that I initiate conversations only for work reasons. I don't have lunch or coffee with him, and I don't see him socially. I have also never told anybody about this crush (until now).
However, I don't want to stop fantasizing about him - it adds colour to an otherwise colourless workday, makes me horny which is improving sex with husband, etc. I am just concerned about this becoming a slippery slope which inevitably leads to emotional or physical affair.
Is this sort of private sexual fantasy kosher in a marriage? Am I tempting marital ruin? Should I be training my mind away from such thoughts or continue to allow myself to indulge?