How do I help my late-40s boyfriend completely reinvent himself?
October 19, 2010 2:16 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend is in his late 40s with no career and a Bachelor's Degree in an area he didn't pursue. He's miserable in his current customer service position and he wants to reinvent himself, but doesn't know where to start. Help me help him find the happiness (which right now means job stability) he deserves!
posted by goodetyme to Work & Money (12 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend, in his late 40s, is from a small town in the Midwest and both of his parents died when he was very young, so he essentially raised himself. He went to a state university and graduated after four years with a Bachelor's in Sociology. After college, he enlisted with the US Army as an infantryman and served his time, never facing any type of warfare. Since college and leaving the Army, he's held numerous jobs, none of which have particularly related to his degree. He worked for DHS and eventually found himself to be a supervisor there, but was worn thin by the bureaucracy involved in state organizations and left after a long stint about six years ago. He decided on being a truck driver and was for a couple of years, but in the end both the pay and the work schedule were too unstable for him. After truck driving, he tried being an insurance salesman, but working on commission wasn't allowing him to get by. He's now working as a customer service representative and is really at his wit's end.
We both make about the same amount of money, which is enough to exist but not to live. I'm considerably younger than him and coupled with working full-time, have begun to pursue a degree of my own. I desperately want to help him get to a better place, but I don't know how or where to begin. His job hunts thus far have only led him to commission-based sales positions or other customer service fields. He's a very smart, computer-savvy, well-spoken and authoritative managerial type, but his Life Science degree seems to have really limited his chances on jobs with other education requirements. He has thought about re-enrolling in school, but we have almost no expendable income and he has been denied financial aid because of his previous degree. We don't have any children and our expenses are at the bare minimum (no car payments, etc), but we're still barely making it. He has been debt-free for some time and would like to stay that way.
I was hoping to find any kind of guidance I can on adult education scholarships or maybe ideas for other positions he could look into based on his background. He has been fighting an uphill battle most of his life and deserves so much to be happy. I want to help him get there.
Any advice is greatly appreciated!