The way forward?
October 15, 2010 2:46 PM Subscribe
Dad with metastaic cancer stage four, pain-free for now. The way forward?
posted by nj_subgenius to health & fitness (18 answers total)
Long story, sorry.
He's 87 now. Dodged a cannonball with an early diagnosis of colorectal ca, but didn't stay with medication regimes, lowering his blood sugar to allow for usable PET scans, etc. Brothers and I intervened twice a couple years ago to get his blood sugar under control and back on meds as necessary, no avail.
He alternates between acceptance and denial/negotiating. Treatments to lengthen the time he has left will require a caregiver, and oddly enough, my unemployed status makes me a most likely candidate. However - the old man still carries every bit of baggage he's found, and it isn't likely he will let go and enjoy what time remains.
I've had a difficult past with my dad but let go of that a long time ago. Because he may not have let go himself, my caring for him feels like a bit of a crapshoot.
Leading to my question: what is your experience either as a caregiver near end of life, or as a visitor to parent at a care facility, or home hospice with an aide?
My gut says 'caregiver' but my brain says ' home hospice'.