I want to perform some sort of ritual to observe the finalization of my parents' divorce but have no idea where to begin.
My parents' divorce was hairy, to say the least. It dragged on for more than a year, and I, their youngish-adult only child, was dragged into the middle of it. In retrospect, both of my parents acted like jerks throughout the process, and I'd like to wash my hands of the whole thing. I'm still having trouble wrapping my brain around the fact that it's over
. I would like to perform some sort of ritual or have some sort of personal celebration, with the purpose of letting my little lizard brain know that it's time to let go of the stress, anger, and resentment that I've been harboring for the past year.
[To those of you who are going to suggest therapy, thank you. It's not immediately accessible to me at the moment, but if I continue to stew, I'll go in the winter.]
I had considered just buying a bottle of champagne, getting sloshed, and reciting Philip Larkin's This Be the Verse
ad infinitum, but eventually decided that I'd like something slightly more symbolic and introspective, and less hangover-inducing.
So, any ideas for a closure ritual/ceremony/one-man party? I'm not at all religious, so that sort of thing is a no-go. Music, nature, water, fire, and words, either written or spoken, are the things I'd come closest to saying have spiritual significance for me.