Pithy Response for Thoughtless, Unsolicited Comments
September 24, 2010 8:11 PM Subscribe
Why do people say stupid things to single people, and how should I respond?
posted by airguitar2 to human relations (38 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a single woman, early 30s, dating in NYC. I meet interesting people regularly, and go on plenty of dates with men. Yet I continually run into people who say things like, "Wow, it must be *so* hard to meet men here. There are *so* many amazing women here." Just tonight a married woman at a small dinner party who heard I was dating said, "That's tough. I meet so many great women here! And so few interesting men!" Another married person once, when I mentioned a date I'd been on, looked at me sympathetically and said, "It's really a men's market here."
Why, for the love of God, do people say things like this to single women?
a) I actually haven't found it to be the case.
b) It makes me feel paranoid that my experience is some weird aberration that will shortly prove to be just that.
c) It seems so thoughtless of these people to say, casually, "Yeah, I've heard that tumor you think is benign is actually inoperably malignant."
d) It just sort of gives me a sinking feeling.
How should I respond, both to the person saying this, and to myself, so I don't let it get me down?